[X&Y] 3 Ninja Ways To Warm Up Cold Phone Numbers

Published: Sun, 06/05/16



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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Did you get a phone number from a woman some time
ago that never really panned out to anything?  Here's your best
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MEET WOMEN AND GET THEIR NUMBERS...STARTING TODAY



Today's newsletter is all about what to do with women's phone
numbers that you somehow never got around to using.

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I mean, first you've got to get the nerve to actually TALK to her.

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continuing the conversation later?

What if she says you're "nice", but she's just not interested?

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3 NINJA WAYS TO WARM UP COLD PHONE NUMBERS



Who cares why it happened?  You might not quite be able to explain
it yourself.

But for whatever reason, you got a woman's phone number and never
really got around to using it.

So having found it crumpled up in the pocket of a pair of trousers
you had thrown in the corner, you remember how hot she was and kick
yourself for never following up with her.

Wait a second, though.  Is it really too late?

Well, let's get real here.  Yeah, it probably is.

But that's the glorious wonder of the word "probably" in this
context.  It's just far enough away from "definitely" to leave room
for "possibly".

So, as long as we're all clear on the simple fact that this is a
low-probability exercise and that there's no way NOT to make it
sort of klugey by it's very nature, then YES...there's a strategy (or
three) that you can use that just might work in your favor.

First, of course...you've got to realize there's actually a number
you've yet to call.

Then, you'll need to gather the stones to go ahead and call
it--especially if fear is the real reason why it's been gathering
dust all this time. 

What do you actually say when she picks up the phone (or when you
get her voicemail, for that matter)?

Well, for sure you can't nonchalantly pass off the whole situation
as if nothing is weird about it.  That'll get you nowhere.

And you don't want to start off by apologizing profusely for being
a bonehead and begging her to talk to you anyway.  No attraction is
going to be ignited like that.

But you can keep personal power while "saving face" by clearly
citing an honest  reason to contact her. 

That's really the secret to engaging her, as it gives her a legit
excuse to respond.  In essence, you want to make it easy on her to
go ahead and talk to you, despite the circumstances.

Here are three VERY simple, uncomplicated ways to package all of
this:



 

1)  "I saw this and thought of you."


If you tell her that something you saw triggered a thought of her,
that might very well soften the perception in her mind of having
been 'forgotten'.  After all, in order to be reminded of someone,
she has to be memorable to begin with.

Naturally, whatever you bring up will need to be a positive,
pleasant "something" in order for this to end well for you.

 

 
2)  "Weren't you the one who...?


The idea here is that you indeed filed away an association between
her and something else, and now that "something else" has come up
in some other context.   So then, since she has something to do
with it, you therefore have the perfect reason to call her and get
her thoughts, ideas, opinions or whatever.

Another variation on this would be, "What was the name of that
[thing/place/person] you mentioned again?" 

Almost invariably, the woman will wonder aloud why you needed to
take so long to come up with such an objective reason to call her
back.  And yes, she's going to have a really good point.

Remember, none of what I'm telling you in this newsletter is a
"slam dunk".  Far from it.

There's no good excuse for taking forever to call her.  She already
suspects you're not all that excited about her.

You may as well say, "Well, people are busy nowadays so I wasn't
going to call you unless there was a something really good to talk
about for sure." 

That might actually work, even if it still doesn't quite add up.  For
some odd reason, I can imagine a woman shrugging her shoulders
and accepting that the male mind just might work like that.

The truth is, of course, that if you're an interesting man you'll
FIND something great to talk about and call her anyway.  That's
optimal, but it's also what would have made sense a day or two
after getting her number instead of weeks later.

So you go with your best option in the midst of a "worst case
scenario", which on second thought may actually be the next one,
to be honest...



 
3)  The "straight up" option


Here it is, and I sincerely trust you were fully expecting this
from me.

The third, and possibly best option also happens to be the easiest
in many ways.

You just tell her the truth, albeit in a way that keeps
embarrassment and hurt feelings to a bare minimum.

So obviously, then, the words to reach for aren't, "Lookit, I met
you and you were okay, but calling you just wasn't a high priority."

"Hey, I just chickened out until now...sorry about that." probably
will fall flat also, although if your shyness comes off as charming
(the probability of which being low) it might work better than any
statement that trivializes her ever could.

The bottom line is that you messed up, so you can make a bold
statement that you respect her by "manning up" and apologizing,
along with setting forth the intention of making things right.  

Don't cringe just yet.  You're not randomly saying, "I'm sorry" and
thereby looking like a wimpy "nice guy".  You legitimately dropped
the ball, and that's when a real man owns up instead of blaming
others and/or acting defensive.

Women are instinctively attracted to men who rise to the occasion
like that, and they can't help it.

Try this:  "I fully understand that I took too long to call you, and
that wasn't right.  It was a mistake not to give us both the chance
to know each other better.  That wasn't fair, and I want to do the
right thing."

Just look at the beauty of that.  In one finely-crafted but
elegantly concise thought, you've simultaneously affirmed her,
retained your personal power, demonstrated attractive masculine
traits AND shown leadership...all the while helping her think
positive thoughts about you.

What more could you ask?  More importantly, what more could
SHE ask?



Ultimately, she may not be at all interested in seeing you again,
and she could even cut the conversation short.  That's not only
what's likely to happen, it's certainly her prerogative to feel
that way after such a colossal mess-up on your part.

Whatever you do, don't take that as "rejection".

But, it after trying any of the three strategies above she DOES
respond positively, you can rest assured that she's still genuinely
intrigued.  After all, she had to sacrifice some dignity there,
which cannot be overlooked.

While it's likely no comfort to suddenly realize you truly did
waste lots of time by not calling her sooner--and indeed almost
missed out on her completely--her willingness to overlook such a
misstep on your part only proves she must have been TRULY
attracted from the start and pretty disappointed that you never
called.

Fortunately, that disappointment never morphed into full-on
disgust, or the call would have been a VERY short one.  You dodged
a bullet there, big guy.


So the only question left to answer is, "How long is TOO long
to wait here?"



Generally speaking, I'd say if you got the number within about a
week ago it can still be considered "current" and you can call her
as you normally would any other woman you met recently.

Some actually recommend waiting a week or even ten days to call a
woman anyway, although I personally think that the longer you wait
the less likely she is to remember meeting you--or which guy you
were.  I don't see that as a positive under any circumstances.

Notwithstanding that, I truly believe you can "roll the dice" and
call a woman you haven't ever followed up with several weeks or
even MONTHS after you originally met her. 

Don't worry if you have to refresh her memory a bit if it's been a
particularly long time.  That's to be expected with so much water
under the bridge.  

Rather than get derailed by that psychologically, press on
realizing that she may just be very glad to hear from you after
she's crystal-clear on who you are.
 

Be Good,

Scot McKay


P.S.  Some of you reported that you couldn't watch yesterday's
video newsletter on your Apple devices.  Yes, they're in Flash.

The solution is to visit my YouTube channel, where you can
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